MINI MASTERMIND: WE FEEL MORE LIKE FLATMATES THAN A COUPLE
We Feel More Like Flatmates Than a Couple
You used to be partners. Now you feel like two people sharing a house and raising children.
You barely talk about anything other than the kids.
You don't have much fun together anymore.
The affection, flirting and sex have dwindled, or disappeared altogether.
And sometimes you look at your partner and wonder:
“Is this really what the rest of our relationship is going to look like?”
You don't want to spend the next 20 years like this.
But you don't know how to change it.
We Feel Like Flatmates is a one-hour, therapist-led Mini Mastermind to help you understand what's gone wrong between you and start doing something about it.
6 short videos · 60 mins · Reconnection Guide included · Lifetime access
£24
Watch whenever you like.
Does this sound familiar?
You're brilliant at running a family together. But what happened to your relationship?
You talk all day...
Who's collecting the kids. What's for dinner. What needs sorting tomorrow.
But you can't remember the last time you had a proper conversation.
You sit next to each other on the sofa, scrolling on your phones.
You rarely kiss properly anymore.
Sex is infrequent, awkward or something you've stopped even trying to initiate.
You don't particularly look forward to spending time alone together because you're not sure what you'd actually do.
And you miss how things used to be...
When you laughed together.
When you fancied each other.
When being together was something you actually enjoyed.
Now you're wondering whether you've simply grown apart.
And whether you'll ever get that relationship back.
This Mini Mastermind helps you understand why things have changed - and what you can start doing differently.
Feeling like flatmates doesn't mean it's over
You didn't plan to end up like this. But here you are.
Nobody gets into a relationship hoping that one day they'll barely speak to their partner.
But then you have children...
You're exhausted. You're busy. You're needed by everyone.
And your relationship becomes the thing you keep putting off.
You'll spend time together when the kids are older.
You'll have more sex when you're less tired.
You'll go out together when life calms down.
Except life doesn't seem to calm down.
And suddenly it's been months, maybe years, since you felt properly close.
You might even be questioning whether you still love each other.
But before you decide your relationship has simply run its course, it's worth understanding what's actually happened between you.
Because there's a difference between a relationship that's over and a relationship that's been neglected for years.
And understanding that difference matters.
This isn't another person telling you to “have more date nights”
You don't need another date night. You need to know why you feel so far apart.
Because what's the point of booking a restaurant if you spend the evening talking about the children?
Or sitting opposite each other struggling to find something to say?
Or having a lovely evening, only to return to exactly the same distance the following morning?
The problem isn't necessarily that you don't spend enough time together...
It's what's happening between you when you do.
Maybe you're carrying resentment.
Maybe every conversation turns into an argument.
Maybe you've stopped making an effort because it feels like your partner doesn't either.
Maybe physical affection has become uncomfortable because you know it might lead to expectations of sex.
There's a reason you've ended up feeling like flatmates.
And until you understand it, another date night probably isn't going to fix it.
That's what we're going to work through.
Not when the children are older.
Not when work settles down.
Now. In the life you're actually living.
Inside the Mini Mastermind
So, how do you actually start changing things?
Six short videos to help you understand what's happened and start making changes.
What happened to us?
Why having children can completely change your relationship, even when you never expected it to.
Relearning each other
You've both changed since becoming parents. But have you kept up with who your partner has become?
How did we lose each other?
The three ways couples gradually stop feeling close, often without even noticing it's happening.
Connection in real life
Where to start when you want more conversation, affection and enjoyment in your relationship.
What keeps us apart?
Why it can feel so difficult to talk, be affectionate or make an effort with each other anymore.
We're not going backwards
How to stop chasing the relationship you had before children and start building one that works for you today.
You'll also get
The Reconnection Guide
Because watching something isn't the same as changing something.
You know that feeling when you read a relationship post and think:
“Yes! That's exactly us!”
And then five minutes later, you're back to the same arguments, the same distance and the same routines?
I don't want that to happen here.
That's why you'll also get The Reconnection Guide.
A downloadable workbook to help you take what you've learned and apply it to your own relationship.
You'll explore:
What you actually miss about your relationship.
What's stopping you from feeling close.
How well you really know each other now.
What you need from your partner.
How to start making small changes in everyday life.
The Reconnection Guide is included in your £24 purchase.
You Don't Need to Watch Together
Your partner doesn't even have to agree to do this with you.
Maybe you've already tried talking about how distant you've become.
Maybe they don't think there's a problem.
Maybe every time you bring it up, they get defensive.
Or maybe you're both aware things aren't great, but neither of you knows where to start.
You don't have to wait for your partner to agree to work on the relationship before you start understanding what's happening.
Watch it yourself.
Watch separately and talk about it afterwards.
Or sit down and work through it together.
You can't change your entire relationship on your own.
But you can start understanding the patterns you're both stuck in, and what you might be able to do differently.
Hi, I'm Suzie
I'm a psychotherapist, couples therapist and a Mum of two myself, and I spend a lot of my working life helping people who are struggling in their relationships.
And one thing I see repeatedly?
Couples who have spent so long being Mum and Dad that they've almost forgotten how to be partners.
They're not necessarily having huge arguments.
They're not necessarily on the brink of separating.
But they're unhappy.
They miss each other.
And they don't know how to get back to a relationship they actually enjoy.
I created this Mini Mastermind because I want couples to have somewhere to start before things become even more difficult.
It's not couples therapy.
But it brings together the understanding and approaches I use in my work, in a format you can access whenever you need it.
Because you shouldn't have to wait until your relationship is falling apart before you do something about it.
Do you really want another year of feeling like this?
Another year of sitting on the sofa barely speaking.
Another year of feeling more like parents than partners.
Another year of hardly touching each other.
Another year of promising you'll make more time for your relationship.
And another year of nothing actually changing.
Imagine instead:
Having conversations you genuinely enjoy.
Laughing together again.
Feeling comfortable being affectionate.
Looking forward to spending time together.
Feeling like your partner is someone you actually want to be around, rather than just the person you share responsibilities with.
That's what you want back.
You don't have to keep waiting for things to get better on their own.
We Feel More Like Flatmates Than a Couple
Stop wondering what happened to your relationship.
Start understanding how to change things.
6 short videos · 60 mins · Reconnection Guide · Lifetime access
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