MINI MASTERMIND: WE FEEL MORE LIKE FLATMATES THAN A COUPLE
We Feel More Like Flatmates Than a Couple
How to rebuild emotional connection after having children
You still love each other...
But somewhere amongst the children, work, endless logistics...
you stopped feeling quite so much like a couple.
This one-hour, therapy-informed Mini Mastermind will help you understand how you lost each other, what might be keeping you apart now, and how to start rebuilding a sense of US.
6 short videos · 60 mins · Reconnection Guide included · Lifetime access
£24
Watch on demand, in your own time.
Does this sound familiar?
You talk to each other all the time.
But mostly about the children.
Who’s doing bedtime. What time swimming is. Who remembered the school form.
What’s for dinner. Who needs to be where tomorrow.
You might sit next to each other every evening...
but barely actually connect.
Less affection. Less laughter. Less curiosity.
Maybe you've become incredibly efficient co-parents, household managers
and logistical masterminds...
but somewhere along the way, you stopped feeling quite so much like you two.
And every so often you find yourself thinking:
Where did we go?
Feeling like flatmates doesn't necessarily mean you've stopped loving each other
When you become parents, your relationship doesn't simply carry on as before with a child added into the mix.
The whole system changes.
Your time changes. Your energy changes. Your priorities change.
Your identities change. You change.
And many of the tiny opportunities for connection that used to happen naturally simply disappear.
Gradually, without either of you deciding to, you can become incredibly good at running a life together...
...while feeling increasingly disconnected from the person you're running it with.
And that can be frightening.
You might wonder whether you've grown apart.
Whether this is just what relationships become after children.
Whether the connection you used to have has gone for good.
Sometimes you haven't fallen out of love.
You've stopped having the conditions in which connection used to happen.
This isn't another person telling you to “have more date nights”
Because when you're already exhausted and overwhelmed, being told to organise childcare, find three free hours and inject some romance into your relationship can feel suspiciously like...
another bloody job to do.
In this Mini Mastermind, we'll go underneath the 'we feel like flatmates' feeling.
We'll explore how you lost each other, what might be keeping you apart now, and how to start creating connection within the life you actually have.
Not the life you'll theoretically have when the children are older.
Not when everyone sleeps.
Not when work calms down.
This life, right now.
Inside the Mini Mastermind
Six short chapters. One therapeutic journey.
01
What happened to us?
Why becoming parents changes the conditions.
04
Relearning each other
The person beside you isn't the person you fell in love with. And neither are you.
02
How did we lose each other?
Explore three ways connection gradually disappears.
05
Connection in real life
How small moments can begin creating connection in ordinary family life.
03
What keeps us apart?
Go underneath to explore what makes moving towards each other difficult.
06
We're not going backwards
Who are we now and what does US look like in this season?
You'll also get
The Reconnection Guide
Because I don't want you to watch an hour of videos, think “that was interesting”... and then carry on exactly as before. 😂
You'll also receive a downloadable companion guide to help you apply what we're exploring to your own relationship.
Use it on your own, work through parts of it together, or come back to it whenever you need it.
You'll explore things like:
How did we lose each other?
What makes it hard for me to move towards you?
Do I actually know the person you are now?
How do we Notice → Reach → Respond?
What do I actually miss about our old relationship?
What does our new US look like?
The Reconnection Guide is included in your £24 purchase.
You Don't Need to Watch Together
Your partner doesn't have to agree to watch it.
You don't have to persuade them to 'work on the relationship' before you can get something useful from it.
You can watch it on your own.
You can both watch separately and talk about what came up.
Or you can sit down and watch it together.
There isn't a right way to use it.
If you're the one who's noticed the distance and wants to understand what's happening, you're allowed to start there.
Hi, I'm Suzie
I'm a psychotherapist and couples therapist, and much of my work centres around what happens to individuals and relationships when they become parents.
Because having children can be wonderful.
And it can also completely change the relationship you had before them.
I created these Mini Masterminds to take the kinds of ideas I explore therapeutically and make them available in an accessible, practical format, so you can understand what's happening underneath the problem, rather than simply being given another list of things you're apparently supposed to be doing better.
This isn't therapy. But it is therapy-informed.
And I hope it helps you look at your relationship with a little more understanding, curiosity and possibility.
What if you could start feeling like a couple again?
Not by trying to recreate the relationship you had before children, or adding another thing to your already ridiculous to-do list.
But by understanding how you got here, what’s keeping you apart, and how to start finding each other again.
More connection
More curiosity
More warmth, affection and laughter
More moments where you feel like you two, not just Mum and Dad
Less like two people running a family.
More like two people finding each other within it.
We Feel More Like Flatmates Than a Couple
6 short videos · Around 60 mins · Reconnection Guide · Lifetime access
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